Kirsten Wilkinson is the founder of Sex Education Academy in the UK, and a member of the board of the National Council for Sex Education (NCSE).
She has been teaching sex education for almost 25 years and is the co-author of the book The New Sex Educator.
We spoke to her about how to become an educator in the age of technology, and the differences between a sex education educator and an educator of the past.
First of all, what are you working on now?
I’m a sex and relationship educator for the age group of 18-24.
I’ve had a couple of projects that have been quite successful, but I’m looking at doing more of that.
I think I can do that on my own.
I also work with school groups, which is what a sex teacher does.
So I can have a dialogue with students and get them involved.
And I can provide some of that information that’s relevant to what they’re experiencing, and I can tell them what to do and what not to do, because they’re not going to be able to go and look up the right words.
So that’s really important to me.
It’s about providing that information and that feedback to young people, and then having some kind of mentorship and support in terms of how they can take it on.
What is the best sex education program you have ever worked on?
The first sex education project I ever worked was in the United States when I was working with the National Sexuality Education Program.
They had a school in New Jersey where there were about 200 children that were participating in a program.
It was a four-hour session where they were asked questions about sex, and they were taught about consent and how to make sure that they were making informed decisions.
They were also given the ability to make a list of sexual acts they had done, so that they could review it over and over again.
It just blew my mind how young people were having that conversation, because we’ve got the same thing with all the new technologies we’re using, whether it’s mobile phones, whether they’re using the internet or whatnot.
I thought to myself, “How can I help people that are in this situation to have a more informed and confident sexual response?
Because the problem is, they’re still being forced to go through the process of thinking about consent.”
So that was a really good one.
The second one was the United Kingdom where I worked with the Young Sex Workers Programme.
They set up a program where they offered a free class to people that were 16-17 and it was a free workshop for women who had experienced sexual abuse and they also offered a workshop for girls, and it really opened up the conversation for them.
So they really opened the conversation.
And then they offered two classes where they would train the students, who would go through a sex-positive curriculum.
I remember being very impressed with that.
It really opened things up for young people in a way that we had never really done before.
How do you teach people how to relate to their sexuality in a sexual way?
It’s very important.
It comes down to empathy.
The most important thing is empathy.
If you’re in a position where you’re just having a conversation with someone and you’re like, “Oh, I don’t know, what do you think about that?” then you’re not dealing with them on a rational level.
You’re dealing with their emotions.
It means you’re listening to their thoughts, and you can listen to what their sexuality is and how it affects them, and what they want out of it.
The problem is if you’re trying to teach people, for example, what to think about their sexuality, you don’t have to be the person who says, “This is wrong, this is wrong,” or, “I’m just a little bit angry.”
It can be really important if you have a good understanding of the issue, because that’s when you can say, “Hey, if you feel angry, you might have some sexual desire, or maybe you just need a little help.”
And that’s all you have to say to that person, because the way you handle it is you don`t have to make that person feel bad, because you don�t need to tell them how bad they are.
So if you just tell them, “Well, it’s OK,” then you’ve made it easier for them to say yes.
You’ve made them feel better about themselves, and that’s the most important step.
What are some other examples of things that are really good sex education programs that you’ve done that have helped change the way young people think about sex?
I think one of the things that is really really important in sex education is the role of sex education in young people’s lives, and sex education that is actually about sex and relationships. And that